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Rise Up! Newsletter

November 2012

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Quote of the Month:

"Now I become myself. It’s taken Time, many years and places, I have been dissolved and shaken, Worn other people’s faces… My work, my love, my time, gathered into one intense gesture of growing…Now there is time and Time is young. O, in this single hour I live All of myself"

~Excerpted from May Sarton

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Message From Bobbie:

Transformation is a BIG word. If it brings up loss and fear, think of it this way: It’s your journey to become yourself.

My Rise Up! participants tell me that they were profoundly moved to find, through our work together, the self they always knew was there.

Rise Up is a transformative experience that reveals all of yourself TO yourself so you can claim the future you were meant to have.

Featured Journal Entry:

Becoming Myself

In one of my workshops was Diana. “Expectations. They ran my family system.” The words “family system” represent who we are in our family. The role we play. “In my family system, this was who I had to be, to do, whatever, to make everyone else happy; but, then again, I never could quite keep them all smiling.”

“More perfect, prettier, smarter, a better athlete. You name it, there was always a competition; it was never ok just to be successful on my own terms. I never had a sense of who I was or what satisfied my own goals. Only best would do - with “best” defined by someone else. I had to shed layers of false messages (like a snake) to become myself.”

I like using the metaphor of a snake shedding its skin when I teach tools for transformation. Snakes contract and shiver, undulate and freeze to gather strength and start again. I imagine that a female snake is like a woman. She has an innate longing for the new, sprinkled with concern for what is lost of her old self. Nonetheless she wriggles to the next layer, the new season of a renewed, cell-by-cell, version of herself.

Diana told me she was, “well named for the goddess of the hunt as she was always hunting down the next pretend opponent.” From top grades in school to the lead in the play to the class presidency, Diana was hunting. All while trying to be the prettiest and most socially acceptable.

"I had no idea who I was or what I wanted until I crashed."

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Featured Exercise:

Shedding the layers of false, limiting voices and patterns is a major step to become the self that was always there. Here is a fun exercise that will help you get started “shedding.”

  1. Go to your closet and take out at least 5 outfits of clothes you can actually layer on top of each other (mixed no match, a t-shirt, pantyhose, sweat pants, old sweaters etc.).
  2. Place a post-it on each one that identifies some name, definition, have-to, must, need-to-be. that you wear every day; any IDENTITY that you’ve carried around. (Here are some I hear in workshops : “Get it done!”; “Be perfect;” “NOT enough; TOO MUCH!” “Too fat; too thin; too uptight; too loud;” “Good girl; bad girl:” “PROVIDER!”)
  3. Now put all those layers on. SERIOUSLY! You may have to force them over your head or squeeze them over your thighs, it may take awhile, AFTER ALL IT TOOK YEARS TO LAYER IT ALL ON… but do it! Walk around a little and see what you’ve been carrying on your back, your shoulders, your heart, mind and gut.
  4. Now SLOWLY, take each layer off, piece by piece and make two piles: “Keep” and “Give it away.”
  5. Take a close look at the “Keep” pile. Ask yourself whether the identities you are KEEPING are for yourself or because you “Have to.”HINT: The KEEP pile should be those self-definitions that make you happy, fulfilled, whole, satisfied. If it doesn’t give it away!

By this time you should be down to underwear; you’ve shed “skin” and feeling lighter you are on your way to BECOME YOURSELF! Nothing to change just a lot to let go of. Transformation starts here!

About Bobbie

In 2011, on a beautiful ranch in Santa Ynez, California, Bobbie created her “Rise Up!” movement as a means of empowering women to create the lives, relationships and careers that they were meant to have. It was named after Bobbie’s ability to find possibility and opportunity in the midst of change and even crisis. Through one-on-one sessions and group workshops that she has done since 2008 Bobbie has helped participants reach their own epiphanies. Read more...

 

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